Feb 17, 2022

In my book titled “A Life Interrupted – the story of my battle with bullying and obsessive compulsive disorder” one of the key messages is about the fact that many victims of childhood bullying often ends up having to deal with various forms of anxiety disorders later in life. And these mental health disorders can significantly impact the lives of victims going forward.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is one of these anxiety disorders that many victims of bullying (like myself) have to deal with. It is a fairly common occurrence among victims of childhood bullying because OCD can control a victim just like a bully does. That is why OCD is sometimes known as the “enemy within” or an “internal bully”. Instead of a typical bully trying to control a victim from outside, OCD tries to control the victim from within. Impact can be significant but fortunately a good therapist, along with some medication, can help a person recover over time.

Many people do not seem to understand what individuals with OCD have to go through. At times some people may think that the person is being lazy and just doesn’t want to do what he or she needs to do. But they simply do not understand what a person with OCD has to deal with. It’s an extremely debilitating disease that can have an enormous negative impact on a person’s life.

It is unfortunate that in these cases even after the external bullying stops, the victims continue to feel tormented by the internal bully. It seems like OCD takes over from where the external bully dropped off. That is exactly what happened in my case. And as I go around the country speaking about this, I have come across many individuals who have had very similar experiences. The real solution is to eradicate bullying from schools.

Feb 10, 2022

I am excited about appearing for an interview on a podcast this evening to have a conversation about “impact of racism”. The podcast is “Humanity Chats with Marjy Marj”.

Over the last year I have had the opportunity to appear on several podcasts but majority of them dealt with bullying and mental health. The topic of my first book titled “A Life Interrupted – the story of my battle with bullying and obsessive compulsive disorder” appears to be a very popular topic for many podcasts. That is understandable since bullying is still a problem in many parts of the country, and there is still a stigma about discussing mental health issues openly. I was happy to be a part of those podcast interviews since I strongly believe that we need to continue to discuss mental health issues openly so people will feel more comfortable in seeking help when needed.

There also appears to be a stigma about discussing racial issues. I strongly believe that we should also discuss these things openly so we can get to a better place as a society. In one of the podcasts I was asked to talk about impact of bias in childhood bullying. In my own situation, bias-based bullying was a key factor, and talking about it should open the door for further discussions and acceptance of diversity.

In today’s podcast with Marjy Marj we would be discussing that same issue about bias-based bullying as well as possible impacts of racism in other walks of life. I will be interested in bringing up and discussing the true story I described in my latest book titled “Minority Viewpoint – my experience, as a person of color, with the American Justice System”. The main goal will be to discuss things that can get us all to a better place as a society.

Feb 04, 2022

It has been a few years since I published my first book titled “A Life Interrupted – the story of my battle with bullying and obsessive compulsive disorder”. But the contents of the book are still applicable today and are still very pertinent since bullying seems to be a continuing issue for many children around the country. My book was based on my two decades worth of painfully acquired expertise in dealing with bullying, anxiety, depression and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. I have written this book so people would know about the devastating long-term psychological impact of bullying. It can ruin the lives of victims for many years to come.

This book also talks about impact of bullying based on diversity/cultural differences as well as ways to battle bullying and/or OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). In fact it seems that anyone who appears to be different in one way or another, is likely to become a victim of bullying. I wanted everyone to know that bullying can have extensive long-term psychological impacts and therefore must be stopped.

The key messages in the book can be summarized as follows: (1) long-term devastating psychological impact of bullying can be significant, (2) bullying can cause PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) which can then lead to other mental health issues, (3) why bullies do what they do (I have a description in my book about a confrontation I had with a past bully), (4) bullying can torment a victim long after the school years are over.

Jan 27, 2022

Whenever an author writes a non-fiction book based on a true real-life story, it is very important that there is no misinformation. Otherwise it can lead to defamation of character. That is why, for all my books, I make sure to get a thorough review done by a defamation lawyer before the book is published.

For example, for my most recent book titled “Minority Viewpoint – my experience, as a person of color, with the American Justice System”, I hired a defamation lawyer to review my manuscript, and went through the following steps:

  • Step 1 – My lawyer did a thorough review of the manuscript (approximately 113 pages) and came up with 101 comments. Majority of his comments fell into two categories – words and/or phrases that could be actionable (with suggested edits in some cases) and a second category where he wanted to see the backup documentation to make sure facts were correctly described.
  • Step 2 – I reviewed all of the comments made by my lawyer and suggested changes for the words and/or phrases identified by him as actionable. I also produced backup documentation for him to review to verify facts.
  • Step 3 – A meeting (between myself and my lawyer) was held to go through each of the 101 comments and decide on changes to be made to remove risks.
  • Step 4 – After that meeting, I made all the agreed changes and sent the marked up manuscript back to my lawyer for his final review.
  • Step 5 – My lawyer reviewed the marked up document and found that all changes were made satisfactorily. He then identified four additional comments for me to look at.
  • Step 6 – I reviewed the four comments and suggested appropriate changes, which were subsequently approved by my lawyer.
  • Step 7 – All changes were then incorporated to finalize the manuscript.

Jan 21, 2022

My book titled “How to stand up to workplace bullying and take on an unjust employer” describes a true story about my battle against bullying and harassment in the workplace. It is an important and timely topic because in many workplaces around the country employees are being bullied and harassed on a regular basis, and this has a significant impact on the employees’ mental health and personal lives.

The only way this unwanted behavior will be deterred is if the employees are willing to fight back against such egregious treatment by these employers. I am not asking every employee to fight back no matter how they feel about it. I know that it can be stressful and some employees would rather just tolerate this treatment or simply quit and find another job.

I would suggest that if you are not prepared to fight back, it is much better to quit rather than remaining employed in the same place and tolerate continued mistreatment because that would most certainly lead to difficult mental health issues. It is just not worth it to stay in a job where negative treatment is a norm.

But ideally the employee should try to fight back. The message I want to communicate is that there are ways to fight back that can effectively change the negative environment promoted by the employer. Also, there are organizations that are available to provide assistance to employees who want to fight back against such maltreatment.

The bottom line is that unless we fight back against such behavior, the maltreatment will continue and will disrupt lives of innocent and dedicated employees. Many employers will not learn until they have to face a serious battle.

Jan 13, 2022

In my book titled “Father Figure – my mission to prevent child sexual abuse” I have described a true story that focuses on the fact that prevention of child sexual abuse is everyone’s responsibility. Even an ordinary citizen can at times be able to do something to minimize or eliminate risks for young children.

The first point I have tried to make is that all adults should keep an eye open to detect any red flags and take some action if a red flag is detected. It is very critical because even one episode of child sexual abuse can torment the victim for a long time to come. No child deserves that.

There are some who might say that you really cannot do much if you are not a member of the family. That is the second point I have tried to make in this book. No matter who you are, there are things that can be done even if you are not a member of the family. An ordinary citizen can do things that can initiate actions on the part of systems such as child preventive services, law enforcement services, etc.

One of things I have heard people say is that trying to do something can be extremely frustrating and can consume a lot of your time. Well, that is the third point I have tried to make in my book. It is true that sometimes it can take a significant amount of time and energy to get the systems to initiate some actions. But it is worth it because you are trying to protect the life of an innocent child.

A lot of our systems are over-burdened and it can take some perseverance and persistence to get them to take some action. But eventually they will take actions because they do care about the safety of all children.

Jan 06, 2022

One of the things I talk about in my book titled “A Life Interrupted – the story of my battle with bullying and obsessive compulsive disorder” is about why bullies do what they do. I firmly believe if we can get to the bottom of this, then we can eventually eradicate bullying from our schools.

To illustrate this point I describe in detail a very interesting meeting I had when I was in the midst of receiving treatment for my severe obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). I decided to try and contact my worst bully from middle school years and see if he would be willing to meet with me so I can find out why he did the things that he did to me in middle school. Since it had been more than 10 or so years since we attended middle school, I didn’t think I would be successful in locating him.

But surprisingly I was able to locate him and he agreed to have a meeting with me. This was a most revealing encounter that made it very clear to me as to why bullies do what they do. In summary, I understood that he had many difficult issues to deal with, primarily at home, and that is what made him bitter and he acted out by bullying others. I strongly believe that if he had received appropriate help at that time to deal with his issues during the middle school years (like seeing a therapist), he most likely would not have resorted to bullying others. If we are able to provide appropriate help to children like these in a timely manner, we would likely eliminate bullying from schools.

One other important information I learned from him – that the reactions of bystanders made a huge difference. Many bystanders laughed and cheered when he was bullying others and that boosted his ego.

I try my best to encourage school staff to understand these issues so bullying in schools can be prevented and even eliminated.

Dec 30, 2021

In my recent book titled “Minority viewpoint – my experience, as a person of color, with the American Justice System” I describe a true story about a legal case to fight against defamation. One of the key areas I discuss in this book has to do with my interactions with the legal community, which includes lawyers, law firm management, as well as lawyers professional responsibility board.

Unfortunately my experience with the legal community in this situation has been rather disappointing. There are several things that were extremely surprising to me:

  • The lawyers do not seem to want to give out a reliable cost estimate. I wonder if it’s possible that they think that if the client is given a realistic cost estimate then the client may decide not to pursue the lawsuit, which would mean loss of business for the lawyers.
  • They also seem to believe that it is not possible to give a realistic estimate. I believe that it is possible to provide a range of estimate to cover possible uncertainties. That would be very helpful for a client.
  • They also do not seem to take any responsibility for a negative outcome of a case. My observation is that there is an “it is what it is” attitude or a “that’s how things work in the legal world” attitude.
  • I was also surprised to note that the law firm management was certainly not interested in hearing about complaints against a lawyer – I felt they were more interested in defending rather than truly listening and understanding the issues from a client’s point of view.
  • Finally I was disappointed in the manner in which my complaint to the board was handled. I was shocked to find out that the board did not even want to have a discussion with me to truly understand the issues before deciding not to investigate the complaints.

I believe that with a slightly different approach the legal community can be significantly more responsive to the general public.

Dec 23, 2021

There is still a lot of bullying and harassment in workplaces around the country, and this can be extremely harmful. I believe that the only way we can get rid of this mistreatment by employers is for employees to fight back in a non-violent manner. And that is why I wrote my book titled “How to stand up to workplace bullying and take on an unjust employer”.

Employers use these bullying tactics to control their employees because they believe that is the only way to get employees motivated. That may be true in a very few situations, but in overwhelming majority of cases employees do not get motivated simply because someone is yelling at them. That will only cause stress and anxiety for the employees and productivity will typically go down.

In fact employers who truly understand how to motivate employees do not need to utilize bullying and harassing methods. They understand that most employees want to do a good job. The most important things for employees are job satisfaction and a positive and rewarding work environment. Most employees are dedicated workers and feel good about an honest day’s work.

The reason I believe employees should fight back against bullying and harassment in the workplace is because that is likely the only way these employers can learn that it is important to keep employees motivated through positive tactics for overall success of the company. The employers have to learn that no employees like to be bullied and harassed, and that to keep good employees around positive methods have to be employed.

Dec 16, 2021

One of the main points I have tried to make in my book titled “Father Figure – my mission to prevent child sexual abuse”, is that all adults need to keep their eyes open to detect red flags when it comes to risks of sexual abuse of children. People at times ignore a red flag thinking that most likely nothing will actually happen. It might be true that in most cases nothing would actually happen, but you simply cannot take that chance when it comes to risks to children.

In the true account story in my book, I describe a situation where I detected a possible risk to a couple of children and acted diligently to make sure the children remained safe. I am aware that some people will argue that I just wasted my time and energy because nothing would have happened. But I did not want to take a chance because even one episode of child sexual abuse can torment the child for many years in the future.

If a red flag is detected, then it is important to inform the parents of the children so they can do something to protect the children. But sometimes, the parents may not want to take any action to look into the situation. In the story I describe in the book, I talked to the single parent about the possible risks, but the parent did not want to do anything about it. Therefore, I had to work with other family members and various systems such as law enforcement and child protective services to keep the children safe.

The point is that one simply cannot afford to ignore a red flag because this is a very serious matter and once it happens, it simply cannot be reversed.

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